I was in training
last week @ Advanced Instructor Conference with over 300 construction
instructors. One day the topic of our
class was “How to Give Constructive Feedback to a Student”. Our facilitator asked our class of twelve
students if we had a memory of someone teaching us something and correcting us
when we did it wrong. I shared the
following story:
It was back in 1967-
68 when we lived in Fresno Ca on E. Swift Street, that my Dad (Dale Hopper)
taught me a lesson. We were laying brick
and building patio tables, benches and a Bar-B-Q pit with a sink and cabinets
underneath.
He asked me to bring
him some bricks in a wheel barrow and he showed me how to load them so it would
not be too heavy. I remember that I got
just a few feet when the wheel barrow turned over. My Dad came again and showed me how to load
the wheel barrow and then he showed me how to control the wheel barrow. If it starts to turn over you simply set the
wheel barrow down and hold the handle bars down.
At that time I was a
little fellow and the handle bars were wide and higher than my waist. But I succeeded in getting him the bricks he
needed.
The facilitator
asked me what my Dad had shown when he was teaching me to load the brick and
use the wheel barrow. I told her
patience and she agreed with me. Then
the other 11 students from around the United States and Canada made the
following observations from their thoughts about the lesson:
He modeled- He
showed me how to load the brick & control the wheel barrow.
He was very
supportive of me- by believing in me and giving me another chance.
He used
reinforcement- by showing me again this is how you do it.
He used praise when
I succeeded and finally got the brick to him.
Then I was trying to load more brick and with stacking them right I was
able to move bigger loads without too much trouble.
As I looked back 46
years ago to the lesson my Dad taught me and I realize that later I would
become involved with building churches, houses then follow my Granddad and Dad
into the Laborers Union to build bridges, roadways and refineries among other
things.
But it took a trip
to Chicago to an Advanced Instructor Conference to really teach me what I
learned from the lesson taught to me so long ago.
Then I thought of
the many churches that my folks have been privileged to be a part of from
Fresno CA to Jacksonville FL, Houston TX, to San Jose CA, to Lexington NC and
finally retiring in Apopka FL.
How many others did
my Dad teach lessons to and how many others did he exhibit the same traits of
patience, modeling, support, reinforcement and praise? Only eternity will tell but I am sure that it
has been many for which we are grateful for all you have done and continue to do
Happy Father’s Day to the best Dad!